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Why you must control your reactions and anger?

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Newton’s third law says that “Every action has equal and opposite reaction!” But when this reaction becomes uncontrolled then situation turns negative. Hence it is important to monitor your reactions to situations if you want to stay positive in life.

Stephen Covey in his book “7 Habits of Highly Effective People” talks about the concept of stimulus and reaction and how people’s behaviour gets affected by them. It is quite common to react to people, situation and events. It is quite natural to get angry and react. However considering that most decisions taken in anger lead to disastrous consequences, it is important that we control our impulses and reactions.

Mark Twain quoted, “Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured.” Anger blocks your understanding. Hence Mahatma Gandhi also said, “Anger and intolerance are the enemies of correct understanding.”

In fact all the great people have recommended controlling our overreactions. No doubt it is quite difficult, however if you are able to do that, you’ll be able to reap the following benefits:

  1. Having a calm and composed mind
  2. Clear understanding of the situation
  3. Right decision making
  4. Improving your relationships with your family members, friends and relatives, colleagues etc.
  5. Overall happiness and harmony in life

We understand the benefits. But the big question is how to achieve a mind free of anger and over reactions? To achieve such a state of mind is difficult, but definitely achievable.

One can try some of the following methods:

  1. Regular Meditation: It is an age old method for mind control. But the condition is you have to meditate regularly, even if it is for short period of time. Best time to meditate is in the morning when you start the day.
  2. Focus on breathing: You can observe that whenever you are angry or impulsive about something, your breathing rate increase. So to control your reactions, you can try the reverse. When you start focusing on your breath at times of overreaction and get it back to normal, you will realize that your anger also calms down. It will take some time to build this habit, but once you develop it, anger management will become very easy for you.
  3. Thomas Jefferson has a very practical suggestion, “When angry count to ten before you speak. If very angry, count to one hundred.”
  4. Avoiding people and situations that make you react with anger: If possible, try to avoid interactions with people who make you angry. Even those situations that may be provoking can be avoided. Although it may not be possible at all the time, but till you don’t develop good grip over your mind to control your reactions, you may try this out.

Before you start working with any of these methods, the essential prerequisite is your own commitment to exercise good level of mind control. Once that realization and need is dawned upon you, things would become quite easy. Once you are controlling your overreactions, there will be a dramatic improvement in your behaviour and quality of life.

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About Vikram Anand

Vikram Anand
This is Vikram Anand; an Entrepreneur, Blogger, Digital Marketer and a Certified Life Coach for Personal Development. I love to share my thoughts and ideas on the topics of Self Improvement and How to be Successful in Life. Helping people to achieve their goals in life is my passion and I do so by way of my blog: http://masterkeystosuccess.com and conducting seminars and workshops.

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